We all have some Dabbler in us. The Dabbler sounds like this:
- “Just wait until tomorrow. I’ve done enough today.”
- “I’ll try a ton of different strategies and see what works.”
- “I can’t sell out to just one thing, because if it fails, I’m screwed.”
- “I can stay an extra hour at the office–she will understand.”
- “I work out enough. I don’t need to be so hard on myself about my health. Life is about living!”
- “It will get better at some point.”
- “It’s okay to check my phone impulsively. My kids aren’t old enough to notice yet.”
- “I will start that business one day. I promise.”
- “They’ll get over it. Sure, I did some things wrong, but they should say they’re sorry, too.”
You didn’t wake up this morning knowing you had a Dabbler inside of you, but you do. We all do.
The Dabbler is a promoter of the mediocre life. He promises things will get better, but they never do. The Dabbler is our best friend. He tells us what we want to hear. The Dabbler helps us justify our current state of affairs. He has conversations with us all day long & is ever-present. The Dabbler is so good, because he has been with us so long, we don’t even know it anymore.
So … what should we do?
Kill him. Kill the Dabbler. Right now.
That would be ideal, right? Only, you can’t kill the Dabbler in all areas of your life at once. Because the Dabbler is persistent. He has 9 lives & comes back stronger every time you try to eliminate him.
So what can we do today?
Stop Dabbling & Start Dominating one area of your life immediately. (Immediately means immediately. Not an hour from now. It means right now.)
On April 8th, 2013, I woke up with a splitting headache & terrible heartburn. This was not uncommon for me, nor was it surprising. I had spent a few years eating poorly & neglecting regular exercise. I was the king of reminding myself that I was the guy who had ran three marathons … But in reality, I hadn’t exercised consistently in years, was barely 32 years old, and felt worse than ever.
I was just about to pop my usual handful of Advil & Tums. The Dabbler told me that heartburn ran in my family, & that I was just an unlucky person struck with headaches. For years I believed him, and I would take the pills and hope it improved.
But something changed that day.
The acute pain I experienced in that moment awakened me to the lies of the Dabbler. I was not in shape. I was not healthy. And nothing was going to change unless I took drastic measures.
So I told the Dabbler, “It’s over. You are dead to me. I will be in better shape in my thirties than I was when I played college baseball.”
I immediately went to the gym & hired the fittest trainer I could find. That’s what Domination does–Domination takes massive action now. My trainer’s name was Bobby. Bobby made me work out harder than I ever have in my life, & that was 18 months ago. I attend Bobby’s classes every day at noon, & even sometimes on Saturday.
Today, I am in better shape than I was in college. Why? I killed the health and fitness Dabbler.
Now, I have many more areas of my life where the Dabbler is winning–but I’m on a mission to eliminate him completely.
What area of your life do you want to take back from the Dabbler right now? If you wait or hesitate, it will never happen. All the excuses coming to your mind right now are lies.
It’s time to kill the Dabbler.
In the comments area, list the one area of your life that you commit to Dominating today.